Getting over Someone :'(

[Simone]

I've recently broken up with my boyfriend of 1 1/2 years and I'm having a really hard time getting over him.  Every time I meet a new guy I find myself comparing him to my ex.  This was first really long term relationship I have ever been in so I was hoping that some of you guys could lend some advice on how to get over him.  Getting back together is no way an option either.  Thanks for any help!

[SenR]

Ive been there girl!! Itll take some time in to start putting him behind u and moving on to another guy. I say the best thing is always to rebound. I know u prolly cant imagine being with anyone else yet but only by dating other people will you loose that comparison factor and start to make new goals for someone u'd rather date.

[Joe]

I was hung up on this girl for a long time and I realized it wasnt doin me ne good. She obviously wasnt right for me bc we broke up and by comparin ppl to some1 who wasnt right for me was stupid. Go on some dates. Yeah ppl always say hang out w/ur friends, but honestly, itll just make u crave male attention. Yes go out w/ur girls but also go on dates, meet some guys and really to not to think of the old guy.  Itll be hard but the more u talk to other ppl the more u will start to 4get about the ex and start thinkin about some1 new.

[Lets_roll]

Take some time for urself, get to know urself and wut u want and I bet he'll fade away

[Thomas]

Stop trying to forget about him, the more you think about trying the more you actually think about him.  Instead, go meet some randoms, get new memories to dwell on.  Nothing blocks out old memories better than exciting new ones.  the worst thing you can do is let him get to you even after hes gone.

[DaveC]

2 words: Rebound sex. Let me no if u need help moving on

[Julia98]

Hey Simone, you should check out the post by AdviceQueen on moving on.  It was insightful to me.  I also recently broke up with a long term bf so I know how you might be feeling.  hope you get something out of the post like I did!!

[scott_showtime]

The best way to get over someone is taking time out for your self.
Go out with all your friends who might be married or engaged.
Have girls night out and go to a bar with its all couples so there fore you wont feel you been hit on or mislead. Bowling alley is a good place to go pick either a friday or saturday night out. If you end up meeting someone cool but you can tell them right out in front you just got over a relationship and you just there to have fun peace.

If you ready to move on well you  got to think what do you really want?

Casual Relationship? Just your love right now and nothing serious but you love him.

Serious Relationship? Where you are committed leading to marriage.


Sexual encounter? as one night stand with a complete stranger?
Watch the movie knocked up and swingers.

[Alicia]

I agree with you 100% Scott. Time to yourself is important. You have to reevaluate your goals, remember who you are on your own, etc. I don't know about going out with married or engaged people tho. That might make me more sad to be alone with happy couples! Girls or guys night out is always a great way to bond with your friends and forget about the loser you used to date!

[Tony]

I guess since I'm a guy I don't have as hard of a time with it. BUt I usually just need a few nights out with the guys and I'm good to go.  I think its all in your attitude. No matter how much I though the girl was great, I just reason that it wasn't meant to be if she didn't think I was great either!